Be a good listener. Your ears will never get you in trouble.
-Frank Tyger
Every moment counts
With your actions, prompted and guided by your thoughts, you are always creating something. On this day, in this moment, the life you are living makes a real difference in one way or another.
It is an awesome power, and yet it can be difficult to comprehend because it is usually so spread out over time. The little, seemingly meaningless things you do from moment to moment combine together to create the life you live.
The most magnificent achievement you could imagine is, at its heart, built upon the recognition that every moment counts. To the degree that you acknowledge and act upon that reality, success will come your way.
You are rich beyond all calculation, and yet that richness cannot be hoarded or hidden away. To be experienced and enjoyed, it must be lived out across the individual moments in each passing day.
Live as though you have nothing to hold you back and everything to pull you forward. For in the richness of the moment, both conditions are true.
Every moment counts, especially this one. Make it count for something wonderful.
-- Ralph Marston
Tuesday, April 18, 2006
Wednesday, April 12, 2006
Success and Bring the positive Momentum
Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.
-Winston Churchill
Break the negative momentum
Many obstacles don't even need to be there. They can disappear as soon as you turn your attention toward something more positive.
Some of the difficult problems you face are mostly of your own creation. Just as you created them, you can let them go and they are gone.
Certainly there are very real difficulties that you must address in the course of your life and your work. Yet many of the burdens under which you labor have been built up over time by your own thoughts and habits.
What seems to be a big problem may actually be a very small and easily resolved issue that your mind has made into a monster. Stop focusing on how bad it is and start focusing on something positive that you can do in response.
That can quickly cut it down to a manageable size, or even eliminate the problem altogether. Once you break the negative momentum that your mind has established, things will soon look a whole lot better.
It's important to effectively address the challenges that come along, yet there is no need to blow them out of proportion. Keep your focus on the good you can do, on the value you can create, and most of the difficulties will be far less difficult.
-- Ralph Marston
-Winston Churchill
Break the negative momentum
Many obstacles don't even need to be there. They can disappear as soon as you turn your attention toward something more positive.
Some of the difficult problems you face are mostly of your own creation. Just as you created them, you can let them go and they are gone.
Certainly there are very real difficulties that you must address in the course of your life and your work. Yet many of the burdens under which you labor have been built up over time by your own thoughts and habits.
What seems to be a big problem may actually be a very small and easily resolved issue that your mind has made into a monster. Stop focusing on how bad it is and start focusing on something positive that you can do in response.
That can quickly cut it down to a manageable size, or even eliminate the problem altogether. Once you break the negative momentum that your mind has established, things will soon look a whole lot better.
It's important to effectively address the challenges that come along, yet there is no need to blow them out of proportion. Keep your focus on the good you can do, on the value you can create, and most of the difficulties will be far less difficult.
-- Ralph Marston
Tuesday, April 04, 2006
Monday, April 03, 2006
Sunday, April 02, 2006
being happy in the present moment and elderly people
I found this interesting article about elderly people, and it rekindled my thoughts about what life is all about and being happy in life. I am sure if I come back to this page after couple of years, it could help me in restructuring my life.
It might seem quite natural for the elderly to often slip happily into reminiscence but living in the past could indicate dissatisfaction with the present, says psychologists.
This phenomenon becomes a problem when an elderly relative starts living completely in the past and ignores the present. While some might welcome a break from older relatives repeating boring old yarns, it is not a normal symptom of ageing.
People who are unhappy with their surroundings might find it easier to retreat into the past. Studies have shown that older people with a positive self-image and perception of others enjoy the present more.
Indeed, there are many reasons why the past is so important to many senior citizens.
'As one ages, one is more physically limited, not as mobile and has problems seeing and hearing,' says Jochen Tenter, specialist in clinical geriatry.
For many, life becomes less exciting. Lacking stimulus, people tend to focus on their inner life. 'They can rely on that. It is dependable and no one can take it away,' explains Tenter.
Society also often contributes to the problem.
'Elderly people are often marginalised because they cannot participate in life as actively as young people,' observes Georg Adler, director of the Central Institute of Mental Health in Mannheim, Germany.
'If older people are fully valued and taken seriously, then they go about their lives and the present day much more positively. Memories and old stories are not necessarily bad,' states Ursula Lehr, gerontologist and honorary chairwoman of the Federal Working Group on Seniors' Organisations (BAGSO) in Bonn.
'Many people begin to take account of their lives as they get old, and that dredges up a lot of memories,' explains Lehr. It only becomes problematic for children and grandchildren when the same stories are told over and over again and only a proactive approach will help.
If you are really interested in the stories, ask for details. That makes it more interesting for the storyteller,' suggests Tenter.
'A person repeats everything if he gets no feedback,' explains Lehr. Instead, annoyed relatives should make it clear whether they already know the stories.
It would be better to say, 'You have told me that so often already,' advises Tenter.
Instead of living silently in the past, older people should seek contact with the younger generation. 'Inter-generational contacts are advisable to put a stop to the past-oriented thinking,' said Tenter. Additionally, it has been shown that contacts with unfamiliar people are also helpful.
'That way you get new impressions and maybe get to play a new role.'
Psychologists and gerontologists also recommend that middle-aged people should be sure to maintain contacts and keep their spirits up. 'That can mean games, dancing, sports or advanced crossword puzzles,' recommends Tenter.
Further, Lehr says that elderly should keep themselves abreast of current affairs. 'Old people should read a newspaper, watch the news, make dates and then discuss it all.'
However, old stories should not be lost under any circumstances. 'Young people should ask older people to write down their experiences and impressions,' advises Lehr.
After all, telling old stories from old times is not just an expression of boredom or dissatisfaction.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/msid-1471943,curpg-4.cms
posted by Venkatesh Krishnamurthy at 8:13 PM | 0 comments
It might seem quite natural for the elderly to often slip happily into reminiscence but living in the past could indicate dissatisfaction with the present, says psychologists.
This phenomenon becomes a problem when an elderly relative starts living completely in the past and ignores the present. While some might welcome a break from older relatives repeating boring old yarns, it is not a normal symptom of ageing.
People who are unhappy with their surroundings might find it easier to retreat into the past. Studies have shown that older people with a positive self-image and perception of others enjoy the present more.
Indeed, there are many reasons why the past is so important to many senior citizens.
'As one ages, one is more physically limited, not as mobile and has problems seeing and hearing,' says Jochen Tenter, specialist in clinical geriatry.
For many, life becomes less exciting. Lacking stimulus, people tend to focus on their inner life. 'They can rely on that. It is dependable and no one can take it away,' explains Tenter.
Society also often contributes to the problem.
'Elderly people are often marginalised because they cannot participate in life as actively as young people,' observes Georg Adler, director of the Central Institute of Mental Health in Mannheim, Germany.
'If older people are fully valued and taken seriously, then they go about their lives and the present day much more positively. Memories and old stories are not necessarily bad,' states Ursula Lehr, gerontologist and honorary chairwoman of the Federal Working Group on Seniors' Organisations (BAGSO) in Bonn.
'Many people begin to take account of their lives as they get old, and that dredges up a lot of memories,' explains Lehr. It only becomes problematic for children and grandchildren when the same stories are told over and over again and only a proactive approach will help.
If you are really interested in the stories, ask for details. That makes it more interesting for the storyteller,' suggests Tenter.
'A person repeats everything if he gets no feedback,' explains Lehr. Instead, annoyed relatives should make it clear whether they already know the stories.
It would be better to say, 'You have told me that so often already,' advises Tenter.
Instead of living silently in the past, older people should seek contact with the younger generation. 'Inter-generational contacts are advisable to put a stop to the past-oriented thinking,' said Tenter. Additionally, it has been shown that contacts with unfamiliar people are also helpful.
'That way you get new impressions and maybe get to play a new role.'
Psychologists and gerontologists also recommend that middle-aged people should be sure to maintain contacts and keep their spirits up. 'That can mean games, dancing, sports or advanced crossword puzzles,' recommends Tenter.
Further, Lehr says that elderly should keep themselves abreast of current affairs. 'Old people should read a newspaper, watch the news, make dates and then discuss it all.'
However, old stories should not be lost under any circumstances. 'Young people should ask older people to write down their experiences and impressions,' advises Lehr.
After all, telling old stories from old times is not just an expression of boredom or dissatisfaction.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/msid-1471943,curpg-4.cms
posted by Venkatesh Krishnamurthy at 8:13 PM | 0 comments
Wednesday, March 29, 2006
Tuesday, March 28, 2006
Friday, March 24, 2006
Strength is
Strength has no need to be showy or boastful. For true strength is quiet, calm, and intensely effective.
Strength is balance, and love and truth. Strength is when you choose to live as the authentic person you are.
-- Ralph Marston
Thursday, March 23, 2006
Let Life Flow
In all its beauty, let life flow. In its quiet stillness, let peace envelop you.
There is much you can accomplish when you focus on the positive possibilities. There is a whole universe to experience when you open your eyes to the wonder.
There is so much love within you. Allow it to come out.
There are so many good and positive things that you can do. Fill this moment with the best of them.
Let the goodness flow in and fill you. Then let it flow out from you with your own special essence.
With calm, peaceful, loving confidence, let life flow in you and through you. Live the real treasure that is now.
-- Ralph Marston
Tuesday, March 21, 2006
Monday, March 20, 2006
Step Boldly
No trumpets sound when the important decisions of our life are made. Destiny is made known silently.
-Agnes DeMille
Step boldly
There's something out there in life that will delight and amaze you. Get up, get moving, and go find out what it is.
There is always more to life than what you've already been doing day after day. Climb up out of your rut and have a look around.
You'll see things that will ignite your passion. You'll find richness you never knew was there.
Can you recall the last time you experienced the thrill of discovery? Remember how great it felt?
You are wonderfully equipped to explore new territory. So by all means, make use of that valuable skill.
Inject some priceless energy into your life. Step boldly into the world and see what great things you can discover.
n Ralph Marston
Friday, March 17, 2006
Wednesday, March 15, 2006
Story of using Perception to succeed
Transcript from a book about communication and perception. Following example shows how perception can influcen the life.
To illustrate, the authors cite the following example of how perception influences the outcome of a situation: Two people are walking their dogs in a wooded area. Both are wearing corduroy pants. When one person returns home and enters her garage, she notices her pants are covered with prickly burrs. When she tries to remove the burrs, she finds they are nearly impossible to pull off and that they prick and scratch her fingers. Her reaction is annoyance, and she decides the pants are ruined. When the second person returns to his home, his pants are also covered with burrs, but he reacts with curiosity, wondering how the burrs have attached themselves so stubbornly even though he barely brushed against the bushes. The second person in this scenario is actually George deMestral. After examining the burrs under a microscope, he came up with the design for Velcro, a multi-million dollar product.
Shift your perception habits from ordinary to high value and you will produce more benefit in less time than you ever have before. You will become a communication catalyst.”
To illustrate, the authors cite the following example of how perception influences the outcome of a situation: Two people are walking their dogs in a wooded area. Both are wearing corduroy pants. When one person returns home and enters her garage, she notices her pants are covered with prickly burrs. When she tries to remove the burrs, she finds they are nearly impossible to pull off and that they prick and scratch her fingers. Her reaction is annoyance, and she decides the pants are ruined. When the second person returns to his home, his pants are also covered with burrs, but he reacts with curiosity, wondering how the burrs have attached themselves so stubbornly even though he barely brushed against the bushes. The second person in this scenario is actually George deMestral. After examining the burrs under a microscope, he came up with the design for Velcro, a multi-million dollar product.
Shift your perception habits from ordinary to high value and you will produce more benefit in less time than you ever have before. You will become a communication catalyst.”
Tackling your enemies
Here is a transcript from the book to tackle enemies
"The saying goes 'Keep your friends close and your enemies closer,' which Corleone demonstrates with tact. It's always vital to practice verbal discipline in deciding how much of your /own/ agenda to share, but especially when confronting /others'/ hidden agendas. Don't be so outspoken about hidden agendas in peers or bosses that you go on their list for retaliation. Whether tempted by your Power of Ideas integrity or Power of Person ego, tread lightly around secret motives. Your friends may come and go, but your enemies accumulate."
"The saying goes 'Keep your friends close and your enemies closer,' which Corleone demonstrates with tact. It's always vital to practice verbal discipline in deciding how much of your /own/ agenda to share, but especially when confronting /others'/ hidden agendas. Don't be so outspoken about hidden agendas in peers or bosses that you go on their list for retaliation. Whether tempted by your Power of Ideas integrity or Power of Person ego, tread lightly around secret motives. Your friends may come and go, but your enemies accumulate."
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