Be a good listener. Your ears will never get you in trouble.
-Frank Tyger
Every moment counts
With your actions, prompted and guided by your thoughts, you are always creating something. On this day, in this moment, the life you are living makes a real difference in one way or another.
It is an awesome power, and yet it can be difficult to comprehend because it is usually so spread out over time. The little, seemingly meaningless things you do from moment to moment combine together to create the life you live.
The most magnificent achievement you could imagine is, at its heart, built upon the recognition that every moment counts. To the degree that you acknowledge and act upon that reality, success will come your way.
You are rich beyond all calculation, and yet that richness cannot be hoarded or hidden away. To be experienced and enjoyed, it must be lived out across the individual moments in each passing day.
Live as though you have nothing to hold you back and everything to pull you forward. For in the richness of the moment, both conditions are true.
Every moment counts, especially this one. Make it count for something wonderful.
-- Ralph Marston
Tuesday, April 18, 2006
Wednesday, April 12, 2006
Success and Bring the positive Momentum
Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.
-Winston Churchill
Break the negative momentum
Many obstacles don't even need to be there. They can disappear as soon as you turn your attention toward something more positive.
Some of the difficult problems you face are mostly of your own creation. Just as you created them, you can let them go and they are gone.
Certainly there are very real difficulties that you must address in the course of your life and your work. Yet many of the burdens under which you labor have been built up over time by your own thoughts and habits.
What seems to be a big problem may actually be a very small and easily resolved issue that your mind has made into a monster. Stop focusing on how bad it is and start focusing on something positive that you can do in response.
That can quickly cut it down to a manageable size, or even eliminate the problem altogether. Once you break the negative momentum that your mind has established, things will soon look a whole lot better.
It's important to effectively address the challenges that come along, yet there is no need to blow them out of proportion. Keep your focus on the good you can do, on the value you can create, and most of the difficulties will be far less difficult.
-- Ralph Marston
-Winston Churchill
Break the negative momentum
Many obstacles don't even need to be there. They can disappear as soon as you turn your attention toward something more positive.
Some of the difficult problems you face are mostly of your own creation. Just as you created them, you can let them go and they are gone.
Certainly there are very real difficulties that you must address in the course of your life and your work. Yet many of the burdens under which you labor have been built up over time by your own thoughts and habits.
What seems to be a big problem may actually be a very small and easily resolved issue that your mind has made into a monster. Stop focusing on how bad it is and start focusing on something positive that you can do in response.
That can quickly cut it down to a manageable size, or even eliminate the problem altogether. Once you break the negative momentum that your mind has established, things will soon look a whole lot better.
It's important to effectively address the challenges that come along, yet there is no need to blow them out of proportion. Keep your focus on the good you can do, on the value you can create, and most of the difficulties will be far less difficult.
-- Ralph Marston
Tuesday, April 04, 2006
Monday, April 03, 2006
Sunday, April 02, 2006
being happy in the present moment and elderly people
I found this interesting article about elderly people, and it rekindled my thoughts about what life is all about and being happy in life. I am sure if I come back to this page after couple of years, it could help me in restructuring my life.
It might seem quite natural for the elderly to often slip happily into reminiscence but living in the past could indicate dissatisfaction with the present, says psychologists.
This phenomenon becomes a problem when an elderly relative starts living completely in the past and ignores the present. While some might welcome a break from older relatives repeating boring old yarns, it is not a normal symptom of ageing.
People who are unhappy with their surroundings might find it easier to retreat into the past. Studies have shown that older people with a positive self-image and perception of others enjoy the present more.
Indeed, there are many reasons why the past is so important to many senior citizens.
'As one ages, one is more physically limited, not as mobile and has problems seeing and hearing,' says Jochen Tenter, specialist in clinical geriatry.
For many, life becomes less exciting. Lacking stimulus, people tend to focus on their inner life. 'They can rely on that. It is dependable and no one can take it away,' explains Tenter.
Society also often contributes to the problem.
'Elderly people are often marginalised because they cannot participate in life as actively as young people,' observes Georg Adler, director of the Central Institute of Mental Health in Mannheim, Germany.
'If older people are fully valued and taken seriously, then they go about their lives and the present day much more positively. Memories and old stories are not necessarily bad,' states Ursula Lehr, gerontologist and honorary chairwoman of the Federal Working Group on Seniors' Organisations (BAGSO) in Bonn.
'Many people begin to take account of their lives as they get old, and that dredges up a lot of memories,' explains Lehr. It only becomes problematic for children and grandchildren when the same stories are told over and over again and only a proactive approach will help.
If you are really interested in the stories, ask for details. That makes it more interesting for the storyteller,' suggests Tenter.
'A person repeats everything if he gets no feedback,' explains Lehr. Instead, annoyed relatives should make it clear whether they already know the stories.
It would be better to say, 'You have told me that so often already,' advises Tenter.
Instead of living silently in the past, older people should seek contact with the younger generation. 'Inter-generational contacts are advisable to put a stop to the past-oriented thinking,' said Tenter. Additionally, it has been shown that contacts with unfamiliar people are also helpful.
'That way you get new impressions and maybe get to play a new role.'
Psychologists and gerontologists also recommend that middle-aged people should be sure to maintain contacts and keep their spirits up. 'That can mean games, dancing, sports or advanced crossword puzzles,' recommends Tenter.
Further, Lehr says that elderly should keep themselves abreast of current affairs. 'Old people should read a newspaper, watch the news, make dates and then discuss it all.'
However, old stories should not be lost under any circumstances. 'Young people should ask older people to write down their experiences and impressions,' advises Lehr.
After all, telling old stories from old times is not just an expression of boredom or dissatisfaction.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/msid-1471943,curpg-4.cms
posted by Venkatesh Krishnamurthy at 8:13 PM | 0 comments
It might seem quite natural for the elderly to often slip happily into reminiscence but living in the past could indicate dissatisfaction with the present, says psychologists.
This phenomenon becomes a problem when an elderly relative starts living completely in the past and ignores the present. While some might welcome a break from older relatives repeating boring old yarns, it is not a normal symptom of ageing.
People who are unhappy with their surroundings might find it easier to retreat into the past. Studies have shown that older people with a positive self-image and perception of others enjoy the present more.
Indeed, there are many reasons why the past is so important to many senior citizens.
'As one ages, one is more physically limited, not as mobile and has problems seeing and hearing,' says Jochen Tenter, specialist in clinical geriatry.
For many, life becomes less exciting. Lacking stimulus, people tend to focus on their inner life. 'They can rely on that. It is dependable and no one can take it away,' explains Tenter.
Society also often contributes to the problem.
'Elderly people are often marginalised because they cannot participate in life as actively as young people,' observes Georg Adler, director of the Central Institute of Mental Health in Mannheim, Germany.
'If older people are fully valued and taken seriously, then they go about their lives and the present day much more positively. Memories and old stories are not necessarily bad,' states Ursula Lehr, gerontologist and honorary chairwoman of the Federal Working Group on Seniors' Organisations (BAGSO) in Bonn.
'Many people begin to take account of their lives as they get old, and that dredges up a lot of memories,' explains Lehr. It only becomes problematic for children and grandchildren when the same stories are told over and over again and only a proactive approach will help.
If you are really interested in the stories, ask for details. That makes it more interesting for the storyteller,' suggests Tenter.
'A person repeats everything if he gets no feedback,' explains Lehr. Instead, annoyed relatives should make it clear whether they already know the stories.
It would be better to say, 'You have told me that so often already,' advises Tenter.
Instead of living silently in the past, older people should seek contact with the younger generation. 'Inter-generational contacts are advisable to put a stop to the past-oriented thinking,' said Tenter. Additionally, it has been shown that contacts with unfamiliar people are also helpful.
'That way you get new impressions and maybe get to play a new role.'
Psychologists and gerontologists also recommend that middle-aged people should be sure to maintain contacts and keep their spirits up. 'That can mean games, dancing, sports or advanced crossword puzzles,' recommends Tenter.
Further, Lehr says that elderly should keep themselves abreast of current affairs. 'Old people should read a newspaper, watch the news, make dates and then discuss it all.'
However, old stories should not be lost under any circumstances. 'Young people should ask older people to write down their experiences and impressions,' advises Lehr.
After all, telling old stories from old times is not just an expression of boredom or dissatisfaction.
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/msid-1471943,curpg-4.cms
posted by Venkatesh Krishnamurthy at 8:13 PM | 0 comments
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